As a blogger and a believer in a sovereign God when things happen in my life involving other people I always have to weigh whether God has given me the experience to share throughout the trial or if God wants me to express love with discretion. It is an extremely hard decision because much good can come from being transparent when it comes to making an impact in other's lives. But words can also bring the power to hurt. Each situation has to be examined independently and prayed over.
I am a very imperfect person and I admit it. True wisdom only comes from God, so if I have any it was given to me, not of me.
Since we are in Christ, and we have His mind, do we have any limitations? If the answer is no, then why do I have so many?
Specifically, I am thinking of showing love to people who have hurt me. I am capable of holding my tongue in Christ, but if pushed to talk, what comes out usually isn't loving...
Or is it? I'm not saying it is, but I look how Jesus talks to the Pharisees and Sadducees and others and you don't see gentleness. You see Him call them "Vipers!" and such... but we know that Jesus is love. Talking to them harshly, with all His wisdom, wasn't unloving, because they probably needed to hear the Truth and would have ignored it in another manner. He knew them inside and out, so He knew what approach to take.
I don't know everyone around me inside and out. But I do have access to the mind of Christ, so potentially I could be harsh and loving simultaneously.
But would I really know when I crossed that line? If I talk while silently praying, would Christ take over?
Basically I'm anticipating a situation where I will have to speak to people I don't care to speak to, but if I don't that will also appear unloving. I'm being urged to just put a mask on and pretend I'm not upset, but I think that is a lie and lying is a sin. Being silent is one thing, but giving a voice to an untruth is another. Knowing this, but also knowing how not perfect I am inside, can I trust myself to speak? But if I don't, isn't that also sinful?
And, knowing that God is sovereign, maybe God is using me to expose something in their life. I say with a sigh, because I know I am imperfect and I don't want to focus on someone else's eye splinter so to speak, but I see it so clearly! Maybe God wants to show them something in this situation using me? Maybe that's why I don't have peace about making peace?
I'm just working out some ideas here.